The other morning when I woke up I was in the throes of a full on panic attack and I was hotter than fish grease, as my little sister, Kay says. But I wasn’t angry–just way hotter than a human in good health should be. I’d already kicked my covers off during the night so I was now clawing at my window gulping for some of that February Frost and trying to figure out how to disrobe even further. On top of it all, it was only 3am and I couldn’t get back to sleep , so I wound up staring at the ceiling until I got up to start the day at 7am.
As I sat at the kitchen table having my second cup of coffee, I came to the conclusion that because I am now a woman “of a certain age,” these experiences may become more commonplace, and that I may need to redefine my new normal. I recently turned 49 years old, but even before then, I began noticing the subtle changes that have been occurring internally; this has been going on for about five years.
I’ve since been educating myself about the implications of these hormonal shifts, researching the many herbal remedies and wellness practices that have been successful for other women I encounter through my work and alerting my friends and family members to the fragility of my emotions and moods. This has been a very interesting and insightful experience so far, and I think it has made me more fascinated with and invested in who I am becoming because I’ve had to re-imagine my life using this new information.
So, now when I think about who I am (and I do that more than ever before), it’s based upon what I know for sure about being a mature woman and not the imaginings of a 20-ish year old woman who projected into the future to create an idea of how life would or should look. Twenty years, four children and two careers later, I am still amazed at how much more satisfying my life is than I could’ve ever imagined. My children are mostly grown and I feel that I’ve experienced a modicum of success as a parent (meaning none of them are immoral or unethical in their approach to life). I also have a great responsibility when it comes to working with women and families; and even though I’ve relocated several times to more than seven cities since this Womanness journey began, I’ve managed to created a family of friends across the globe who are amazing and supportive and well versed in many topics and interests that have helped me grow as a woman, mother, business person and friend.
With that in mind, I would like to take a moment to introduce you to the titles of four books that I have read and found helpful on the subject of Menopause. This information may be of use to you if you’re also a woman “of a certain age” but I promise you it is never too early to begin to heed the signs and move accordingly.
- Before the Change – Taking Charge of Your Perimenopause by Ann Louise Gittleman, M.S., C.N.S
- Woman at the Edge of Two Worlds – The Spiritual Journey Through Menopause by Lynn V. Andrews
- New Menopausal Years – The Wise Woman Way (Alternative Approaches of Women 30-90) by Susun S. Weed
- The Wisdom of Menopause – Creating Physical and Emotional Health adn Healing During The Change by Christiane Northrup, M.D.
These books are wonderfully written and have helped me to define and get in touch with the transformative power of this stage of the adventure that makes the life of a woman fuller, much more interesting and totally worth living. Find any or all of these titles, read them and let me know what you think. Also, if you have some tips and pointers for us, feel free to share them with us here.